Japanese Social Interactions (Julien)

Whether you’re planning on staying in Japan for a week, a month, or a year, it is important to understand a little about Japanese social interactions. As a foreigner, you should remember that Japan is a completely different country with its own distinct customs, social behaviors, and mannerisms. Though this may seem obvious, it is often forgotten.  In due course, it can lead to many frustrating and incomprehensible moments. Therefore, please take heed of the following advice.

One of the first things you’ll probably notice when in Japan is that it is an extremely structured and orderly society. The same can be said about its people. Since the days of the samurai, the family unit has long taken precedence over the Western concept of individualism. Thus in this context, the concept of shame and politeness is strongly embedded within the average Japanese. Asking or explaining something in a bold, suggestive, or terse manner may be seen as extremely rude. That's to say, when you’re at a shop remember to be polite and when you’re with a new Japanese acquaintance give yourself a little extra space when getting to know him or her. Sincere friendliness is definitely a plus, but do not try to force yourself to strongly on a person. As opposed to the West, most things in Japan are said and done in an indirect manner.

Bearing all of this in mind, try to be extra sensitive about what you say or do. Even when with American or foreign friends, try not to be an obnoxious presence. Speaking and laughing loudly in a train station might invoke feelings of intimidation and resentment. Unlike many Western societies, Japan is an extremely homogenous population and is not heavily integrated with different ethnic groups. This fact is twofold. Though it might mean a more genuine Japanese experience, it also means that you will be regarded more as an ambassador of your country. You will be surprised that even in the metropolis of Tokyo, Japan’s most international city, that you might be the only foreigner in a street, a shop, or a metro car. Don’t fret, Japanese people will not stare at you or be awed by your presence. So, try not to do the same. 

As you will find, Japan is a fascinating and mysterious country. In order to unravel its mystery, meeting real Japanese people is a must. It will not only broaden your horizon but also give you insight on another way of thinking.  If you follow the above principles and put in a sincere effort to interact with Japanese people your experience in Japan will be that much richer. Who knows a deep friendship or relationship may ensue. If not, however, you will have at least bettered the reputation of you and your countrymen.